By Sandra Elzie
Recently my husband and I were each in our home offices, but he had turned on the satellite music station to 50s & 60s music. Since I was deep in thought and typing as fast as my fingers would allow, I guess I missed hearing the song, Sixteen Reasons Why I Love You.
Later that morning, my husband came downstairs to my office…nothing unusual about this, especially the nearer it gets to lunchtime. But this time, he pulled over a chair and sat down near me…the usual sign that he is going to ask me to look up something on the computer that he wants to discuss.
But this morning was different. He had a piece of paper in his hand and once he was seated, he spent a few moments just staring at the paper while I waited to see why he had interrupted me.
When his eyes finally connected with mine, his stare was momentarily intense, but then softened. “Did you hear the song a little bit ago?” “What song?” What music? What are you talking about? Hurry up…before I lose my train of thought. “Sixteen Reasons Why I Love You.” Suddenly I felt a twinge of guilt for wanting him to hurry to his point so I could get back to what I had been doing.
Then he started to read from his paper. It was a list of sixteen reasons why he loves me. Okay, I’m a romantic, so my heart softened to the point of melting into a puddle as I listened to him read off some very lofty characteristics—things about me that mean “love” to him. Gosh, by the time he got to number sixteen, I was choked up and unable to speak. My arms around his neck and a tender kiss had to speak for me.
It’s a bit overwhelming to hear someone detail the reasons he has set you high on a pedestal. The air is thin up there…and the seat is small…and you fear falling from the perch and disappointing the one who put you there. Know what I mean? As we move through our daily lives, taking care of business, I’d venture to say that we seldom think about the impact we have on those around us. We don’t stop to think that the little things can mean so much to someone who loves us. Maybe it’s the way we smile or the way we pay attention when the other person is talking to us. But just a word of caution…we must never forget that our tongues are powerful tools we can use to either praise or criticize…uplift or tear down…and once words spoken in anger are out there, it’s too late to yell for a “retake” or “do-over.”
You’ve heard the old saying about stopping to smell the roses…and I totally agree…but on a more personal note, I’d suggest that we also stop and think about what we can do for those we love…things that will demonstrate to them how much we care…and then take the time to write down what it is about that person that you love and share it with them. Believe me, I can tell you from recent experience, it’ll mean a lot.
What has your special “other” done to make you smile…or make your heart melt? What special little thing do you do to tell that special person that you care? We’d all love to hear…and maybe it’ll give us some great ideas!!