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Thirty and counting…

By Susan Carlisle

I’ve never re-posted before but this one post which recently appeared on Love is the Best Medicine works so well for today’s post I had to share it again. I hope you find it interesting.

Most of my time this past weekend (two weeks ago) was devoted to a daughter of a friend’s wedding. I gave the Bridesmaid’s Luncheon on Friday, but spent most of the day Thursday cooking and setting tables. On Saturday evening, my husband and I attended the wedding – lovely bride, handsome groom and beautiful setting.

I remember being in that same spot thirty years ago. On October 30th, my husband and I will celebrate our thirtieth wedding anniversary. I’ve lived with my husband a lot longer than I lived with my parents. Neither of us is as young and attractive as we once were. In fact, age has taken its toll but we’ve grown older together so it doesn’t seem so traumatic.

All those years ago marrying my husband seemed like a good idea. Numerous years later, I’m glad I can say that it turned out to be a great idea. When you’re young you have zero understanding of the happiness and heartbreak that you will share with the person you marry. I had no idea of what I was getting into but still I wouldn’t have wanted to spend those years of ups and downs with anyone else but my husband. In this day and age where the average marriage lasts three to five years, I have to be impressed that my husband has kept me around so long.

We had a nice trip planned to celebrate our anniversary that we had to cancel it due to my husband’s work schedule. When my husband’s boss told him he couldn’t have the time off my husband asked if the company was going to pay for divorce care.


His boss replied, “If she hasn’t divorce you by now she isn’t going to.”

There’s a lot of truth in that.

For our twenty-fifth anniversary I wrote out a list of all the things my husband and I had done and experienced through our years together and gave it to him, saying I would do them all over again with him. It was a pretty amazing list of events. We now have five more years to add to the list but I’d like to do a little more.

This coming weekend I’m attending my cousin’s wedding. On the beach no less. She is getting married for the first time at fifty-two years old. I’m so excited for her.

This past Tuesday, October 30th my husband and I celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary. That’s a rose for each year.



Maxine Davis - November 1, 2012 - 9:37 am

Congratulations Susan and hubby. Yes, I believe the ups and downs with the same person strengthens a relationship. The pictures above look like two very happy weddings. And the flowers are lovely. Here’s to you and hoping you’ll have 30 more together.

Susan Carlisle - November 1, 2012 - 10:11 am

It does take the hard times to make the good ones shine. Thanks.

Sia Huff - November 1, 2012 - 10:42 am

Many congratulations, Susan. You’re right, thirty years is an amazing accomplishment. I’m sorry you and hubby didn’t get to get away. Maybe when his work settles down.
I love seeing your wedding picture – just beautiful. Wishing you both many more Happy, Healthy Anniversaries.

Marilyn Baron - November 1, 2012 - 11:26 am

What a great post. My husband and I celebrated our 38th anniversary in June. It’s hard to believe how quickly time passes. We had to postpone our trip this year because of my husband’s business but we did take it earlier this month and I’m blogging about it on Monday. Love the pictures.

Pam Asberry - November 1, 2012 - 2:18 pm

You were a beautiful bride, Susan, but you are just as beautiful today, inside and outside. Congratulations to you and your husband. Here’s wishing you many, many more years of marital bliss!

Alexa Bourne - November 1, 2012 - 2:31 pm


Linsey Lanier - November 1, 2012 - 8:15 pm

I love weddings and think anniversaries are very special. A big congratulations on your thirtieth, Susan. That is an accomplishment. And you were a beautiful bride. :inlove:

Susan Carlisle - November 1, 2012 - 8:36 pm

Thanks Sia. We hope to take a big trip so.

Susan Carlisle - November 1, 2012 - 8:38 pm


Thrity eight is a mighty number. I’m glad you got your trip in.

Susan Carlisle - November 1, 2012 - 8:39 pm


Thanks for saying I was a beautiful bride. I was certainly a young one. I seems like yesterday in some ways.

Susan Carlisle - November 1, 2012 - 8:40 pm


Thanks. We did treat this one special. Don’t usually do much but we both gave gifts and went out to dinner.

Carol Burnside - November 2, 2012 - 12:00 am

Congratulations, Susan! OMG, y’all look like babies! Such cuteness. I wish you and hubby at least another 30 together.

Susan Carlisle - November 2, 2012 - 7:54 am

I thought we were pretty old then, now I think we are babies also.

Dianna Love - November 2, 2012 - 7:34 pm

ah, that’s so sweet. Congratulations!!! Best wishes for a great weekend. :)

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