By Sandra Elzie
Over the years I’ve noticed several major differences between men and women. I’m sure you’re rolling your eyes and snickering…probably even thinking that I’m obviously a natural blond and …well…duh, of course men and women are different, but hang in there. I’m actually going to make a point here….soon.
Having had both male and female teenagers in my home…although more females than males, I think I have had enough experience to make some solid statements about the differences. I can tell you that boys brag more about their accomplishments and girls dream more about what they hope to accomplish …mostly in the area of what boy they hope to get the attention of.
Oh, and the boys get all macho and jab each other on the arm while they tell their tall tales of conquest…ending it with a high-five or verbal encouragement such as, “Way to go, dude,” or “You’re the man.” Girls, on the other hand, get all soft & mushy…dreamy-eyed and they sigh a lot. They share their feelings with their girl friends…while their male counterparts try desperately to deny that they ever have feelings. Know what I mean?
But when they grow up you might think things will change…at least a little bit. Right? Wrong. Now, my married son talks about computers instead of girls, but still avoids “feelings” and such discussions. Married daughter? She might be talking about her husband instead of her boyfriend, but she still looks dreamy-eyed when she talks about him and she still sighs. (I think she got that from her mother. :)
As readers, we expect women in our favorite books to want to talk with the guy about their feelings (and with their girlfriends or their mother) but we also expect the hero to cringe at the thought of telling the girl (at least at first) about what he’s feeling deep down inside. (Shudder) They may feel something for the girl, but they have to work themselves up to telling her…and then I think it’s a bit more realistic if they do it with as few words as possible. I have yet to meet a man in real life who could ever come close to a woman in the contest of talking. We’re wired differently.
A news station in New York recently reported that there is clinical proof that women talk more than men. It says there’s a “language protein” in the human brain and females have 30% more of this protein than males. Click here to read their article.
I read the article to my hubby and he homed in on one detail. The article states that the average woman talks approximately 20,000 words each day compared to 7,000 for a man. Now, my husband is a man of few words…preferring to listen, but he had a response to this article’s claim. “Well, I don’t think I use 7,000 words a day…but obviously you’re using my left-over words.” (On a side note, no hubby was harmed in the writing of this article.)
A friend told me a while back about a skit she saw during a marriage seminar at her church. The lights were turned off and a spotlight homed in on two women sitting in the choir loft. They spent the next three to five minutes talking about hair. “Sarah, you cut your hair! I love it!” “Oh, yes, thank you,” she preens, smiling. “I went to a new salon and the girl did a fabulous job. You know, she’s recently divorced, but I can’t imagine why because she’s cute as a button, bless her heart.” “Oh, that’s horrible…but she gave you the perfect cut for the shape of your face.” “Thank you, Sweetie. Oh, but the best part is these blond highlights…” And on and on they go, but you get the picture.
Then the spot light goes out for a moment and then focuses on two men. “Hair cut?” “Yep.” Light goes out. Can’t you just see it?
Share some of your observations about men and women…or boys and girls. Do you agree or disagree with the article? Also, have you ever started reading a book and the male…or female…just didn’t follow the “norm” ? How did it make you feel about the story?
About the Author:
Sandra Elzie lives in Georgia with her husband of several decades and the feline home-owner, Jack. Sandra loves to travel, read and write contemporary romance books. She loves to hear from her friends, and can be contacted at: http://www.SandraElzie.com