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Blog-Rome-Dinner on ShipBy Sandra Elzie

The other day a friend sent me a YouTube about September 11th, which I won’t get in to, but one of the men interviewed made a statement that resonated with me.  He said that we should never reach old age and look back on our lives only to wish we had done something that we’d always wanted to do.  Or, maybe worse, wish we’d stepped up and done something that needed to be done when it needed doing.  In short, we should take steps today to never have to look back on our lives with regrets.

Since I’ve passed the sixth decade of living, I must admit that it made me stop and think about whether or not there is anything in life that I’ve wanted to do that I still want to do before my time on Earth is finished.  I wonder if there is maybe  one or two items left undone that would outweigh all the adventurous, fun things I’ve done.  And, has there ever been a time when I should have stood up for someone…or for something that was right, and chose instead to keep my hand down and my mouth shut?   (Hey, I told you it was a soul-searching moment, right?)

I mentioned this dilemma to my husband and he reminded me of a conversation we had soon after we got married.  I told him there were three things I wanted to do…and hoped he’d be willing to do with me.  Fly a glider plane, parachute from a plane and go hang gliding.  He readily agreed to take glider plane lessons with me…and we did this.  He also agreed to go hang gliding…although we never seemed to get to that one, but when it came to jumping out of a perfectly good airplane, he told me I was on my own.  Okay, so I’m one out of three on my first Bucket List.  Doesn’t sound too great, right?

I’ve reached the mature age when I’m very protective of my bones that are a bit more brittle, so the thought of landing on the ground…hard…just doesn’t appeal any longer, so those two unfulfilled goals aren’t as important to me as they once were.  Then I thought about all the things I’ve done…and accomplished…that were never on that original list.

I’ve traveled, flown over a volcano in a helicopter in Hawaii, climbed up a waterfall in Haiti, walked where Jesus walked in Israel, climbed Aztec ruins in Mexico, wrote books that were published…oh, and I can’t forget getting married, going to college, becoming a mother and later a grandmother, and retiring after over thirty years of working.  Well, the list could go on, but for the sake of space, let’s just say that I’ve had a full life and been blessed with a beautiful family, a loving husband and lots of great friends.  What more could I ask for?

Is there an item or two that you wish you’d done…or still plan to do?  If so, step up to the plate in 2014 and get it done…otherwise, you just might some day be unable to fulfill that dream and then you might have regrets.


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Sandra Elzie writes contemporary romance and lives with her husband  in the Atlanta, Georgia area.  Oh, and we can’t forget the owner of Sandy’s house, Jack, the resident feline.  You can read more about her on her    Her books are available on Amazon.

Sandra also writes as Sandra McGregor.  Her books are available on Amazon.

Pam Asberry - January 14, 2014 - 1:31 am

Great post, Sandy. As I approached the end of 2013 I might have said I regret never having the fewer love of my life but then I met him December 1st. So yeah, no regrets!

Marilyn Baron - January 14, 2014 - 7:06 am

Love this post. I guess I would like to see the Hermitage Museum in St. Petersburg and maybe go on a safari but really if I didn’t do either it would be okay. I definitely don’t want to go skydiving. I’ve done a lot of what I’ve wanted to do. It is good not to have regrets.

Tamara LeBlanc - January 14, 2014 - 10:01 am

Sandra, I love this post, too! I’ve always wanted to travel. I’ve never ventured out of the country and I’ve been to very few places in the US as well. I’m dying to see the Grand Canyon. I’d LOVE to see the pyramids one day as well as visit the Cairo Museum. I want to jump out of a plane and I want to be on a roller derby team.
Marilyn, I’ll go skydiving with you anyday!!!!
I also want to see this book I’ve been working on with my agent in print on bookshelves. I finished about a week ago and added 37,000 words to this previously published novel. I’m really proud of it. My husband’s fondest wish is to see it republished as well. One of my desires is to get that done before he gets any sicker.
Thank you for sharing your dreams with us.
Have a wonderful week!

Maxine - January 14, 2014 - 6:38 pm

Sandy, you started me thinking. Yes, there are some things left that I want to do. I’m working on some, need a push to work on some and some, thank goodness I had the sense to cross them off my list! Good article.

Connie Gillam - January 15, 2014 - 9:41 am


What an interesting and timely post. My sister and I were just talking about our bucket list.

I’d like to travel more and learn to swim (one of my phobias). But basically to live life to the fullest in the years I have left.

Sandra Elzie - January 15, 2014 - 1:43 pm

Hi Pam,
You met the love of your life on Dec 1st? I’ve got to hear more about this !!!!!

Sandra Elzie - January 15, 2014 - 1:44 pm

You know, looking back on my younger years, I’m a bit surprised to think I would have jumped out of a plane…but then the kids came…and then I got older and wiser.

Sandra Elzie - January 15, 2014 - 1:47 pm

Hey Tamara,
I’m right there with you on the pyramids and Cairo. We went on a cruise to Europe a couple of years ago…and Egypt was included…we’ve even planned a camel ride out to the pyramids…but then Egypt had to have a civil unrest episode and the ship wouldn’t stop in Egypt because of safety (especially to Americans) so………….. Oh well.

Sandra Elzie - January 15, 2014 - 1:48 pm

Yep, I’m still working on enjoying life, but I crossed off a couple items as well. And added Ziplining…which I did earlier in the year. Gee, I wonder what’s next?

Sandra Elzie - January 15, 2014 - 1:50 pm

Hi Connie,
I’m right there with you on living life to the fullest. While I have good health, I want to go and do as much as possible. I’ve heard it said: You can sleep when you’re dead.

Debbie Kaufman - January 15, 2014 - 2:09 pm

Oh, my. I’m almost afraid to think about the things I know I still want to do! Travel is a big part of it.

Sia Huff - January 16, 2014 - 6:59 pm

Great post, Sandy. I came to this conclusion last year. I’ve always wanted to travel and am doing more now that I’m not a caregiver of someone sick.
The other goal I’m working toward is publication. I’d like to touch someone’s life with the stories I tell.

Sandra Elzie - January 16, 2014 - 8:20 pm

Hi Deb,
Yes, I know you want to travel…and so do I. Love it.

Sandra Elzie - January 16, 2014 - 8:21 pm

Girl, you are going to make it…traveling and publication…I’m sure of it. You’re a great writer so just hang in there.

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