By Susan Carlisle
I have placed a moratorium on weddings in my house. We just had one last week, and I have another son on the verge of proposing (I think) but I’m going to say no to the wedding even though I would like to see him married and I like the girl he is interested in.
So why the moratorium?
It’s because every time we have a wedding, which being the family of the bride or the groom costs a good deal of money but that isn’t even the problem. The real issue is that my husband and I plan financially for the wedding cost but not for what happens afterwards.
When my daughter got married almost five years ago on the way home from the reception the transmission went out in my car. We had to buy a new one. Those were many dollars we didn’t have after paying for a wedding.
The day after my son’s wedding I was washing some tablecloths and my husband asked, “Do you smell something burning?” We looked up to find smoke hanging across my kitchen ceiling. My washer was pronounced dead by the repairman. So what did I have to buy? That’s right, a new washer. Bucks I didn’t have. Wait, it gets better.
A week to the day after the wedding my laptop goes out. Dead too. I write for a living. Have a book due at the end of the month, and new book contract for a nonfiction book and no computer. Left no choice I had to go buy a laptop.
So I have placed a moratorium on weddings until I have enough money not only to pay for the wedding needs but for whatever disaster befalls us after the wedding. I would have said lightning doesn’t strike twice in the same place but I’ve already seen that proven to be wrong.
Have you ever had a time that you said “Whew! We got through that.” only to have something else happen?
Next month I’ll share pictures of what turned out to be a beautiful wedding.